Can all women have an orgasm? Is it, in fact, true the majority of women may not be able to reach the point of this sexual sensation?
Why are women considerably less likely to have an orgasm than compared to men?
This is something that was a topic of discussion among some peers of Her Inner Pleasure just the other day and it really had everyone thinking on what it is that could prevent certain women from experiencing the feeling of an orgasm? Please, by all means, correct me if I am wrong, but shouldn’t every woman experience an orgasm at least once in their lives, if not more?
What is a orgasm? An orgasm is a feeling of intense sexual pleasure that happens during sexual activity. It’s sometimes called “coming” or “climaxing”. Both men and women have orgasms.
Being as it is, we decided that here at Her Inner Pleasure we would take it upon ourselves to find some answers, not only for our peers who were curious on why certain women may not be able to have an orgasm, but also for our valuable readers as well and hopefully shine some light on this topic for every one’s education purposes.
We feel this is another main sexual health topic that needs to be addressed and not kept under the covers hidden from the world, answers are needed on why can’t I have an orgasm?
What Could Be Preventing You Having A Organism?
First, we focused on what we thought might play a major role in preventing certain women unable to orgasm and was quite surprised by our findings. Our first thought was to look at the demographics as our starting point with age, income increase, living situation, and education.
Even as it may appear those factors mentioned above are somewhat role players in the likeliness of achieving an orgasm which increased slightly, it is still not enough to prove why it is hard for the majority of women not being able to have an orgasm
Is it something that is psychological or sociological that plays a major role in the factors?
Second, could it be that their beliefs are possibly preventing them from having an orgasm? Some women appeared to believe that within their beliefs it was forbidden among their culture for them to reach an orgasm and felt that they would be committing a sin if they did. People have even committed suicide because they had masturbated and felt they had shamed their beliefs, It is sad to say but also true.
What category would their beliefs fall under, psychological or sociological?
Now I can understand that some religious beliefs when it came to masturbation are to be considered wrong doing’s and one having a feeling of guilt. Which, truth be told is that masturbation should be talked about and open for discussion. No one should ever have a feeling of guilt when it comes down to it, did you know that masturbation offers several health benefits that can really improve your overall well-being?
So Many Distractions, Why Can I Not Cum?
We are a society of humans who are multi-taskers every day. We scroll through Facebook while we are brushing our teeth, watch TV and talk on the phone while we eat and checking our text messages plus our emails while we have conversations with our friends or family.
Our brains are so used to being in overdrive mode that it can be difficult to relax and focus on just one task at a time, like having an orgasm.
For most people during sex, their minds are so focused on other things than just focusing on what really matters and that is a pleasure for them and for their partner. If you are worried about what you are going to wear tomorrow to that big meeting or what would be a good dinner idea for tomorrow night then you will never be able to have an orgasm. I know it is hard to try and turn the brain off with so much going on around you.
If you feel your brain going 90 miles an hour during sex, you may want to take up yoga or try meditation which will teach how to focus and have a clear mind. You can also try doing a no-multitasking challenge; for one day a week try to only do one activity at a time. It will feel ridiculously challenging at first, but it will slowly get easier as you practice. You will begin to see that you are still getting your task completed, but at the same time, you are becoming more and more feeling less overloaded.
If you feel like you becoming distracted during sex then tell yourself, “Okay, I am starting to drift off to other thoughts, I need to bring myself back and enjoy the moment I am in right now”. Take deep breaths and relax, no need to be in a hurry unless it is a quickie.
Relationship Happiness, The Key To Orgasm?
Are you in a relationship and very happy with your partner, but still not having an orgasm? Studies show that as happiness within a relationship increases that the chances of a woman reaching an orgasm experience go up.
It turns out that the ability for women to have an orgasm has very little to do with the differences among women, but more so to do with the stimulation that they are receiving from masturbation or from their partner.
Many women — about one out of three — have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex with a partner. Most women experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. So if a woman is having difficulty reaching orgasm, she may want to try clitoral stimulation before, during or after vaginal intercourse or oral sex.
The clitoris can also be stimulated orally, manually, or with sex toys such as a vibrator. Most women who reach orgasm with a partner have also experienced an orgasm from masturbation. Women who have never had an orgasm may want to try and masturbate in order to learn how they like to be touched, which in return communicate the information with your partner and let them know where the right spots are.
Keep in mind, every woman’s body responds differently to various kinds of sex, and every woman has different preferences for how she likes to be stimulated.
How To Stimulate Yourself?
As we all know, the only one who truly knows how to get you off, is you!
Stimulate yourself and let your partner watch, this will be a big turn on not only for you, but for them as well.
Women are most likely to have a ‘yes yes yes’ moment if their partner engages in deep kissing, genital stimulation, and oral sex. Finding what works can really boost the pleasure for both you and your partner, remember to communicate with each other letting both parties involved know where it is to touch, rub or bite in some cases. By doing so will open up a whole new chapter in your love making.
- Direct stimulation
- Sex toys
- Dirty talk
- Tantric sex
- Masturbate in front of one another
The most valuable thing you can do is to find new ways to bring more Clitoral Stimulation into your sex life. Work on finding adventurous positions and activities that stimulate the clit and you’ll be opened up to a whole new world of possibilities. Discuss with your partner on the topic of bringing Sex Toy’s and lubrication into the bedroom in order to try new and exciting things.
You Can Squirt What, Out Of Your What?
Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid out of a woman’s urethra during orgasm. If you want to learn how to squirt, you’ll need to enlist the help of your G-Spot and yes all women have a G-Spot. The G-spot is located just a few inches from the vaginal wall. You can use your fingers to locate it, you’re looking for a spongy bundle of tissue that’s roughly the size of a quarter. If you press down on it, you should feel like you have to pee really bad. The G-spot usually responds best to very firm pressure when applied to.
A majority of people are only fixated on the squirting itself, but what makes the experience pleasurable is the fact that it’s accompanied with an intense G-Spot-induced orgasm. By stroking the wall of the vagina (the front side) it will create a unique sensation that can lead you to an orgasm.
One of the best things a woman can do in order to learn how to squirt is by to exercise your PC muscles better known as “Kegels”. These muscles wrap around the pelvis and have been known to increase the chances of reaching a stronger orgasm and allowing you to squirt.
If you do not know where your PC muscles are located then try this the next time you sit down to pee, as your peeing stop the flow of urine and you will feel a pulling up sensation.
That pulling up sensation is your PC muscles stopping the flow of urine, this exercise can be done throughout the day even if you are not needing to go. Practice a few times a day and hold and release.
If you’re on your own, you’re probably going to want to use a sex toy because it will pretty hard to reach the anterior wall of your vagina with your fingers. The G-spot is more about pressure than on doing a ton of tricky movements, so try simply rubbing the toy in small circles with a good amount of force.
If you’re with a partner, then you want to lay on your back and have your partner use a “come here” motion with their fingers to find your G-spot. Your partner should be in a position that gives them good leverage and is comfortable. Alternatively, they can also use a sex toys on you. Again, focus on small, tight movements with a lot of pressure. Please remember to always use lubrication when using sex toys.
Practice Makes Perfect
Over time the more you practice on yourself or with your partner you will eventually be able to have an orgasm and will know every time how to make it happen for you. There are several sex toys and lubes out there on the market that are very safe to use and can help you even more. Plus along with exercising your muscles, there should be no reason why now you could not have an orgasm.
Remember to relax and cut out all of the surrounding distractions, just focus on the moment that is taking place. Turn the phone off or on silent, turn the television off and put on some romantic music to help set the mood with some candles and wine.
We here at Her Inner Pleasure hope that we have provided some helpful information for anyone who is reading and that this information will help set you up to have the best exploding, wet, squirting best orgasm you ever had!!!
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